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I’m of the view that taking offence is a choice. One can choose to not be angry or upset by someone else’s words or actions, and instead respond by being curious... Being offended on someone else’s behalf is perhaps more about the desire to control?

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I find that taking offense for others, especially online, is more often than not virtue signaling. Sadly, for most people, having a good character for its own sake is not the goal. To them, morality is more or less a status game they want to win.

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Taking offense is alive and well. The powerlessness of encountering another's behavior, world view, habits or errors can lead to anger, resentment, rage, violence. The concept of seeing the mote in another's eye, but not the beam in one's own was warned against by Jesus, as well as considering another an offender for a word. The emotional responses referred to above are the responsibility of the offended, not the supposed offender. "you keep pushing my buttons" as a defense for anger is a simple sign of deeply held attitudes that need examination and self reflection. It would be a wonderful thing if the whole world could take a time out for self reflection, caring, respecting, thoughtful responding, and knowledge. Nothing original there.

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Leadership can be good or bad. If you limit the definition of leadership to “good” only you are changing the historical understanding of the term. The oldest definition of a Leader is that a Leader is someone who has followers. It is possible to distinguish between a Leader and Leadership by limiting the definition of leadership within an ethical and moral framework. But again this involves some etymological revisionism and we must ask the question “Who decides?” and what word do we use to distinguish bad leadership from good. There are many to choose from on the bad side: Deceiver, Manipulator, Magnetic, or simply Powerful Personality. All leaders throughout history have been flawed human beings. Some who accomplished great good were greatly flawed. Does it add to our understanding of human relations to parse Leadership at this late date?

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